Annette M. Irby enjoys writing songs, articles and novels. Her work has appeared in Northwest Christian Author, The Christian Journal, the devotional The Secret Place, and the 365-day devotional book Penned from the Heart, vol. xii and xiii (SonRise Publications, 2006 and 2007). Her current fiction writing includes a trilogy of novels, as well as a novella. She is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers and the Northwest Christian Writer’s Association. Married over 15 years, she lives with her husband and three children near Seattle, Washington.

How did you get your first “writing break?”

Carla Williams, then president of the Northwest Christian Writer’s Association, told the group of us that to break into the writing business we needed to publish articles or devotionals. One evening, I was scheduled to give the evening’s devotional at our meeting. When I was unable to attend, Carla asked if I’d turn the devotional into an article. Then she printed it in the Author newsletter that the NWCA puts out. That was my first published piece. Being a part of that group has led to multiple opportunities that I wouldn’t have heard of outside of the organization.

What do you write and why this genre?

I write Christian romantic fiction and really enjoy it! I love the biblical idea that God is a lovesick King and Bridegroom who pursues His bride and even died for her (us). These truths make wonderful insights for writing romance. I also believe the thread of romance in a story often helps move it along like few other elements can. It’s universal. We all want to be loved unconditionally. Christian romantic fiction allows me to tie it together.

Do you have any recent contracts and up coming releases?

In November, 2006, I signed my first book contract. The story is a novella entitled “Love Letters.” It released January 19, 2007 through The Wild Rose Press’s White Rose Line: http://secured.thewildrosepress.com/catalog/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=144&products_id=334My site will link you there, too: www.annetteirby.com

What do you hope to accomplish through your novels?I want to point readers toward the heart of God. I know storytelling is a great medium for sharing truths. Jesus used this method. What I want to do is share without preaching. As a reader, I read fiction to be entertained, not preached to. I enjoy discovering a truth, or being reminded of God’s ways while reading, but if it’s done well, it’s subtle and easier to enjoy/receive. I try to write what I want to read.

And now for the tough questions…How do you balance being a mom, wife, and writer?

Author Randy Ingermanson once said that a person in motion is by definition unbalanced—you pick one foot up in order to move forward and in that instant you’re out of balance. I agree with him. By definition, I’m probably unbalanced a lot of the time. There are days that I’m more focused on writing or writing-related tasks in my home office and days when I’m cleaning out the storage room under the stairs for a while and doing three loads of laundry. I have learned to entrust my children with more of chores than I used to simply because I have to work in my calling. That’s not all bad.

Do you think it’s possible to give yourself fully to raising children, writing, working full time, and keeping in shape? If not, which one for you has to take a back seat?

I believe God can refresh me and help me meet the needs of those around me so long as I keep Him first. I work from home, so I’m here for the kids. I am very grateful that I can do this. It’s tricky scheduling my workouts because my baby requires different things on different days (in other words, I’m not in total control of my own schedule). But I am committed to making it work and I’m trusting God. A while ago, as I was pedaling several writing projects at once and feeling overwhelmed, God offered this: “There is a time for every purpose under heaven.” (my paraphrase of Ecclesiastes 3:1) He has called me to write. My writing is part of His purpose. He’ll work out the rest.

When do you find the time to write, and do you ever feel like you’re neglecting your children when you write?

I write whenever I can and I have definitely felt like I was perhaps neglecting my children at times. However, one very positive aspect has been the motivation. When I had more time, I accomplished a lot less. Now that I have limited time, I find myself taking advantage of every opportunity. Another key for us is that we don’t have much television reception or cable, so I’m not tempted to while away 3 hours every evening. I use reading as a relaxation reward and that becomes a tool to both inspire me and teach me as I study the work of other published authors.

How do you handle interruptions in your writing life?

There are days that I handle interruptions with grace and then there are days when I worry and get short-tempered with my children for barging into my office to get something or talk to me. I wish I could say I’m kind and patient all the time. God’s still working on me.

How do you get back into the flow of writing after you’ve been interrupted?

First I have to overcome the feelings of frustration. Then, I just back up and read where I was or focus in again. Sometimes, I will admit, I lose the track I was on and can’t recover it. For those times, I have to trust God with whatever was lost. Either way, the children are more important than a few words on the page. God is sovereign. He’ll either help me remember what was lost or let it go because it probably wasn’t that important to begin with.

What do you do to encourage yourself during those stormy days every writing mom has?

I remind myself that God has His timing and that He will make it all work out. Yes there are definitely days when I can’t write a word because I’m so busy with family life. But there are also days when thousands of words come forth. All in all, it resembles a balance.

How do you position yourself to HEAR God’s voice when all the noises of life are swirling around you?

I have to take advantage of alone times. My older children spend their days at school and my baby takes naps. During those times I can pray and seek God. For me, quiet is essential to concentrate –or quiet accompanied by worship music. When everyone’s home, I sometimes have to draw more strict boundaries and tell the kiddos to entertain themselves. Mom needs some time alone.

If you do feel your priorities slipping, what do you do to get back on track?

Put God back in first place. I’m not perfect at this. But I know Jesus directed us to seek first His kingdom and righteousness then everything else would fall into place. That’s my first step. Then I try to take a step back and analyze what are the most important projects that need doing? Some days, a child’s homework project is number one. Other days, a writing deadline is number one. Everyday is different. To simplify my life and schedule, I try to keep God in first place.

Has there ever been a time God told you to set aside your writing to focus on other areas of your life? If so, how did you handle that?

Eight years ago, I owned and ran a medical transcription business out of my home. I had two small children. One afternoon while I worked a few feet from her, my youngest daughter started crying and I didn’t jump up to see to her right away. It wasn’t an urgent cry and I kept working. (My daughter was fine, by the way. She just wanted my attention.) Then it hit me – something is wrong here. God directed me to give up my business. So far, God has only given me green lights on pursuing this writing career. If that ever changes, I will listen to Him. Who knows what He may have in store in the future. So far all of His moves in my life have led to good things. Eventually.

Did you ever feel like you’ve “missed” God in regards to writing, that maybe you should be doing something else?

I have struggled with feelings that maybe I should finish pursuits I began before my writing career became a high priority. But I don’t think those thoughts are from God. Whenever I ask Him about them, He assures me I’m in the right place. He will bless obedience. I’m humbled by this calling and hope that I can serve Him faithfully for as long as He has me writing.

What advice would you give to writing moms who are have their hearts set on publication?

Trust God with your family and be observant. You’ll know when you need to put things aside to focus on your children and husband.

Regarding breaking into publishing: one of the best pieces of advice I heard was to pursue getting your work into magazines, journals or devotionals. If you query enough places you’re going to start getting some “yeses.” Plus every time you hear a “yes” you’ll be encouraged to keep going.

Join a writing organization that will support you. I have joined two and have found the support, networking, advice and training to be priceless: Northwest Christian Writer’s Association (a local group) and the American Christian Fiction Writers group (national). Also, getting published in those journals/magazines, etc. will mean building your by-line—being able to tell editors/publishers that your work has appeared elsewhere will make a big difference for them taking a new writer seriously. Trust God to open the doors in His timing and keep learning. He’s got good plans for you!

Is there anything else you’d like to share?

There is one idea that has helped me relax during times when I’ve been waiting for word on my projects while others around me are signing contracts and having success. Here it is: if God called you to write, there is room for your writing in His world. In other words, you can rejoice with fellow writers who succeed with their work because there’s still room for you! God is generous and He will bless your graciousness.

Thank you for this opportunity to share my story. God bless you.

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you forget to post about something you really meant to post about! Back over the Thanksgiving weekend we drove 5 hours to a dinosaur park. Thirty minutes into the trip I told my hubby I would NOT be making the 12 hour drive to his family for Christmas! Traveling with four kids, bickering in the back seat is not my idea of a vacation, but it does have it’s fun moments. Like this

Grace: “I can’t hear the t.v., I need your earlobes. Chris, give me your earlobes.”

Chris: “No, I can’t give you my earlobes.”

Me: “There not called earlobes, they’re called headphones.”Grace: “I still can’t hear it, I need the earheads.”

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I’ve just started categorizing and changing the links on all of my 300 plus posts! I really like organization, though you couldn’t always tell it from looking at my home and desks, so make it worth my while and visit my categories! Let me know what you think!

I’m tracking my progress here:

March 2006
April
May
June
July
August
September
October
November
December
January 2007

BTW, here’s an easier way to remember my new address http://portraitofawriter.ginaconroy.com

And I won’t be upset if you help me spread the word!:)

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Between transfering the blog, setting up the new Writer…Interrupted and freezer cooking tonight, I’ve been busy. No time to post. But stay with me. There are good things to come!

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This is a test for a new software I downloaded. I’m going to play around with adding graphics and links. Mary said it was easy and fast. Guess we’ll see!

So here I’m testing out the block quote thing.

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Hubby and I have been watching the 3rd season of 24 on DVD. We usually watch 4-6 shows in a row, staying up way too late. If anyone has ever seen 24, you know how suspenseful they can be. A writing friend suggested I watch it to learn how to write suspense, and she was right. As soon as Jack Bauer solves a problem, the episode ends in a twist I rarely see coming that propels me into the next episode. I highly recommend watching 24 on DVD instead or the current season. Unless of course you like to torture yourself!

Getting back to the dream. Last night I had a strange dream that was sort of a cross between a beauty pageant, 24 and a musical. What I can remember is that I was sitting in a large auditorium. My writing buddies are on some panel facing the audience, then a pregant lady comes out to talk with them, she’s wearing a tight fitted suit, then I go take the first seat in the first row, take off my shoes and socks (maybe the talk about my mom going through airport security had something to do with that part). I remember setting my big purse next to my chair and then being called to the panel.

Here’s where 24 comes in. I reluctantly leave my purse at my seat and walk to the panel, checking my purse every couple of seconds. Then a red and brown mini van drives down the isle and next up to my seat. (I did mention this was a dream) The front door opens, and my purse disappears. I tear off, Jack Bauer style, after the van and manage to latch myself onto the van. (This part is a little fuzzy) Then I fight for the purse, but can’t find it. I’m thrown (or jump) off the van and know the guy is coming after me with a vengence. So I duck behind some warehouses and spy a forest. Thinking I can hide in the forest, I dive into the foliage and realize it is inhabited by a camp of gypsie. I pull a Quazimodo and cry “Asylum, Asylum” and inform them that their people will be in danger, some will even die because of me. They honor the gypsy code and seconds later the theif turned assassin runs in crying “Asylum,” But it’s too late I got there first.

Then the mood changes and a soft ballet plays in the background. I don’t know who’s singing, but I can hear the words and the melody cleary…”Will he ever be my friend again…”

Strange, huh! Or maybe the making of a new genre!

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Margaret Daley has been writing for twenty-five years and loves to tell stories. When she’s not writing, or teaching, she loves to read, travel and go to lunch and a movie with a friend.

Magaret is a gifted teacher and mentor, and I’m proud to call her my friend. Welcome!

Tell us a little about your family and your call to write.
I have a husband and one son who now has his own family. He has two adorable stepdaughters and is expecting his first child this summer. It is great being a grandmother.

I didn’t start out planning to be a writer. I went to school to be a teacher. I teach high school students with learning disabilities English. Writing just sort of happened. I’ve always loved to weave stories. I used to as a child playing with my dolls. Then one day I thought I would try writing one of those stories down on paper. Ever since that day I’ve been writing. When I think about where my books come from, I can’t really say. They just happen. I think it’s a God thing. The whole process amazes me at times.

Tell me a about your recent contracts and up coming releases.
I signed a three-book contract at the end of August, and then in November I was offered the third book in a Love Inspired Suspense continuity series. I will be busy for the next six months completing those contracts. I have finished the first book on the three-book contract. It will be out in October 2007 and is called Buried Secrets. It is a Love Inspired Suspense. Right now I’m working on my second book called Heart of a Family, the second one in my Fostering by Love series for Love Inspired. The first one will be out this April called Once Upon a Family.

When and how did you get your first “writing break.”
I went to a conference where an editor wanted to see my work. I sent it to her. She didn’t buy the book, but she recommended me to my first agent. Not long after that I sold my first book to Silhouette Romance in 1981.

What do you write and why this genre?
I write inspirational romances and romantic suspense books. I think love is what makes the world go around. At the heart of all great stories is usually a love story. I write romantic suspense because my favorite books to read are adventures and suspense books. They are exhausting to plot and difficult to write, but they are my favorite stories to write.

What do you hope to accomplish through your novels?
To entertain and share my faith

Do you think it’s possible to give yourself fully to raising children, writing, working full time, and keeping in shape?
No, something usually has to give. While raising my son, I worked full time as a teacher and a writer. Not easy to do. And in the middle of all that trying to keep in shape is very difficult to do. There isn’t enough time in the day to do all I need and want to do. I try not to be too hard on myself when I can’t get something done the way I want, but I’m not always successful in accomplishing that.

How do you balance being a mom, wife, and writer?
Sometimes not well. There are times I feel pulled in too many directions because I want to do everything and do it well.

How do you position yourself to HEAR God’s voice when all the noises of life are swirling around you?
I try to have some quiet time with God. I often prayer when I first wake up while I’m still lying in bed. What I am afraid of is that I will miss something important that He is saying to me. But then if it is important, He’ll repeat it until I hear.

If you do feel your priorities slipping, what do you do to get back on track?
I try to slow down (take a day off) and take a deep breath.

Has there ever been a time God told you to set aside your writing to focus on other areas of your life? If so, how did you handle that?
I had a long dry spell and during that time I went back to school and got my masters. I didn’t sell and I didn’t write as much as I did before. I didn’t give up on writing. I just put it on the back burner to further my education. I feel an important part of my ministry is my teaching and helping teens who need it.

When did you find the time to write, and did you ever feel like you neglected your child when you write?
I’m sure there were times I have neglected my child. When my son was little, I would write when he slept which sometimes wasn’t long. I learned to write in short snatches of time because that was all I got.

Tomorrow I’m babysitting my two granddaughters, but I’m so looking forward to it after spending five intense days writing. I need the break.

How did you handle interruptions in your writing life?
As calmly as possible. As a teacher I’ve learned to expect the unexpected. I like order, but I’ve had to learn to go with the flow as a teacher and a writer. It hasn’t always been an easy lesson, though.

How did you get back into the flow of writing after you’ve been interrupted?
You just have to plunge back in. I read what I wrote last, or if I have finished a book, I start developing a new one. At first it is slow go while I’m coming up with characters and a plot.

What advice would you give to writing moms who are where you were six months ago?
Keep writing. Perseverance is so important in the writing business.
There are a lot of things you can’t control, but you can control writing the best book possible for you at that moment. If you have done the best job you can, then that is all you can ask of yourself.

Is there anything else you’d like to share?
As much as I wish it wasn’t, rejection is a part of this business. I have received many of them over the years, and I will continue to receive them. Allow it to get to you for a day, then put the rejection in a drawer and move on. Work on your current project or start a new one, but continue to write.

Thank you so much for sharing with me and all the other writing moms. You’re an inspiration and encouragement to us!

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My mom is in town so I don’t have time for a thoughtful post on this Sunday. But check out this link, especially if you have boys!

http://chrysaliscom.blogspot.com/2007/01/family-life-bringing-up-boys.html

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A couple months back we had The Talk with son number two. I’d been preping Joey for months about this talk, planting seeds of information and preparing him so he would know it’s something not to be shared among his friends.

We checked the book Before I was Born Book Two out of the library weeks ago, but Joey kept saying “I don’t trust myself not to tell.” Tonight we just decided to read the book with him so I could return the book before it’s overdue!

We snuggled together, prayed and then began reading. Throughout the book he was very mature and it helped that we had already discussed many on the things already that were in the book, everything except how part of the daddy got into the mommy.

When we got to that page, after we read about the male and female parts, I asked “so how do you think the daddy part gets into the mommy.” (meaning the egg and sperm)

He looked puzzled and then said, “Through her mouth? Does she drink it?” I let out a chuckle and went on to explain that the mommy and daddy parts had to touch. Okay, call me chicken cautious, but while I was reading, I had to edit or paraphrase the page that went into detail and used the word S*X. We figured he gets the point and believe in little doses of truth instead of loading them all down with information they’re really not going to be able to do anything with.

Then we moved on to explain the sperm connecting with the egg. Joey’s eye light up, “It’s like the Oklahoma land run. Thousands of men are after one woman.” That made me laugh out loud!

We finished the book, emphasizing God’s plan for babies in marriage only and asked him if he had any questions. He didn’t and seemed satisfied with what we had shared with him.

Our second time around wasn’t near as scary and painful as the first! I think I’ve gotten more comfortable with sharing the information!

The next TALK on the agenda is when my husband gets to take our oldest on a father son Passport to Purity Weekend. We’ll probably go through this book one more time, letting him read the “forbidden” pages. Yet, I’m so glad he still has his moral innocense in tact. He mentioned to me that at church he heard the word S*X and didn’t really understand what the big deal was. He still thinks it’s the word to describe being a male or female. That’s what I told them it meant in the past, since it’s unavoidable nowadays that you’ll hear it on television.

I asked Chris if he wanted to know the other meaning for the word. He fired back, “No!” I said, it’s kind of like The Talk we had a couple of years ago. He said, “No thanks, I don’t want to know.” And for know he doesn’t have to know!

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Reposted from May 2004

Disclaimer: This post bares it all. Well, at least all of what went on and what was said when we had THE TALK with our oldest several years ago.

There’s two things I’ve dreaded as a parent so far. One is potty training (three down , one to go) and the other is THE TALK (one down, three to go).

A couple of weeks ago I summoned up the nerve to read the first book in the Before I was Born series. It says you should read it to your kids when they are three – five years old. Mine were six and nine.

Even though I had never actually had THE TALK with them before, I had been trying to prepare them for it in subtle ways by talking about babies and how you need a mommy and daddy to have a baby. They never really asked questions, and were satisfied that God made babies… except once while I was driving, Chris was three and he asked where the baby came out.

After running a red light and nearly missing a pedestrian, I tried to change the subject, and we ended up playing a silly game which sounded something like this, “Mommy, does the baby come out of your elbow… giggles, how about your nose…” more giggles and so on.

I was more than happy to play along. When he was a little older he was satisfied with the answer that God made a special opening for the baby to come out and it was near a mommy’s bottom. Of course the image of that brought chuckles.

Well, a couple of weeks ago we read the book and my children finally learned the proper names for male and female body parts. But that was about it. I dreaded the next step which would get a little more informative, but I ordered the book from the library anyway.

I was 44th on the waiting list. I took a deep breath of relief knowing I still had some time before the big talk. My main motivation for THE TALK was that my son was going to camp this summer and although he’s been sheltered so far, I was afraid he might hear something from someone else. But I also dreaded THIS TALK because I know how the sight of his brothers running around naked grosses him out.

Finally the book arrived two weeks ago and I read it over and stuck it in a drawer. Everything was explained pretty well, except I wasn’t ready to describe the physical act to him yet. I already decided that I would wait to tell Joey, his 6 year old brother, and I wanted Chris (9) to feel that this was something special that we wanted to share with him.

Finally the day came when I had to return the book, but we hadn’t had THE TALK yet. My husband didn’t even know I had the book, but I knew the talk had to happen soon. The book is now overdue, but we decided paying a small fine was better than chickening out and waiting another couple of months…or years.

I don’t know why this part of parenting is so hard… well actually I do know why. I grew up in a home without a father. I don’t remember my mom ever sitting me down and telling me. She said when I was really little I asked questions and she answered them. But the things I do remember learning about s*x growing up was all nasty talk on the school bus or in movies I was definitely too young to see. I still can’t believe my mother let me see Saturday Night Fever in the theatre when I was 10 or 12.

Another part is how your child sees you. Having THE TALK (in my opinion) causes your child to see you in a different way. For me, it was a way in which I wasn’t ready for my child to see me.

Any way, getting back on track. Tonight we decided it was the night. About a week ago, Chris informed me he was looking through a children’s science book and read something about babies and the woman’s cell… I couldn’t exactly figure out what he already knew, but somehow I felt it might make our job easier. So tonight, Chris, my husband and I snuggled in our bed (we read a lot there and wanted to make it comfortable for everyone.)

We started out by sharing that what we were reading was something for his ears only and not for his brothers and we felt he was old enough to hear it. (We knew this would make him feel special and important.)

He kind of knew what was coming because he got all silly and embarrased and covered his face and said, “Oh I don’t think I want to hear it… Oh, I wish I had never read that science book.” and he stuck his head under the covers and giggled some more.

Surprisingly enough his giddy embarrassment started us laughing and made me feel more comfortable. We asked him what he was embarrassed about and what he already knew. Chris just hit his head several times and said, “Uh, I don’t know anything. My brain is not working right.” But he still had that look on his face that said, “I want to know, but I don’t want to know.”

I could tell he was in giddy distress, so I became serious and said, “If you don’t want to read the book we don’t have to.” Chris replied, “Uh, I think I do.” So I assured him that if he wanted to stop at any point, he could just say so. So we just started reading and every page we’d ask him, “Do you want to hear more?” He covered his eyes or pulled the covers over his face and said timidly, “I think so.” So we moved forward.

A couple of the pictures embarrassed him, like the picture of Adam and Eve (covered by fig leaves) shocked him into silliness. But slowly we conveyed God’s plan for our changing bodies and marriage. We avoided the word s*x, instead we said God has a special gift for husbands and wives to share with each other. The reason we decided NOT to use the word s*x is because you can’t turn on the televsion without that word being on every channel, even during previews and commercials. I didn’t want him to think about IT everytime he heard the word s*x. In the past we explained the word to him as in gender… male and female. For now and for his age, we know it is the right decision.

We knew by his reactions throughout THE TALK that although the book got into a little more detail, we would not be graphic in our description. You should have seen his eyes pop out of his head when we told him husbands and wives can lay in bed naked together if they wanted to. And when we told him their ‘privates’ need to touch to make a baby, he didn’t believe us.

I think the biggest question he had was how pee and sperm came out of the same place. He laughed at the thought of pee entering the woman, and we tried to explain between the giggles and disbelief that it can’t happen at the same time. He got really silly about the “privates” touching and did a little dance and said, “What, do they Tango?” It was incredibly funny, and we all started laughing.

Well, at least THE TALK was more fun than I thought it would be and Chris wasn’t grossed out by anything. At least he didn’t show that he was. And I beleive he was ready to hear as much as he heard, but I still am glad I didn’t dump it all on him at once. He’s still young and I want to preserve his moral innocense as long as I can.

When we finished, we reminded him not to share this information with anyone and before we could finish explaining why he said with big eyes, “Don’t worry I won’t tell anyone… not even Joey (his brother). He won’t be able to handle it. He’d go to church tomorrow and say ‘P*nis, p*nis, p*nis, p*nis, v*gina, v*gina, v*gina…” He said it in this sing song voice that made us crack up again.

Okay so I know THE TALK should probably have been a little more serious, but at least we had fun and now I know that even if we have to talk about serious stuff, we could still lighten the mood with a joke.

One down, Three to go…

Come back tomorrow for THE TALK, take two.

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Grace got a new Belle and baby Belle doll today and while playing I heard this:

Grace as the Prince: Okay, Ariel and Belle. I will choose who I will marry, and then I’ll get to see you butt naked. I choose you, Belle.

Grace as Belle: Oh, I knew you would choose me. And now you can see me butt naked!

I guess Grace has been getting the messages about it being okay to be naked when you’re married. I guess that will make having The Talk easier on all of us. In fact, that reminds me about the first TALK I ever had with my oldest. I’ll be posting on that tomorrow.

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Ten months ago I placed my writing on the altar, realizing that publication had consumed my life and my writing had become an idol. Giving up writing was one of the most painful things I’ve had to do, but I embarked on this not writing journey, without knowing the path God would lead me down.

It’s only been about two months since I dusted off my WIP, but looking back on it now it was the best thing for me and my writing.

No longer am I obsessed to work on my WIPs. I used to spend most of my evening and well into the night, plus many weekends writing. But the draw to write, the addiction so to speak has been lifted. I still love my writing time, but it’s been put in it’s place, mostly on the weekends. Now when I do get to write, I am truly thankful for the time. It’s a feeling of “Yeah, I get to write” Instead of “I.have.to.write.” withdrawal feeling.

Leaving my critique group had its benefits as well, though at the time it was heart wrentching. It was so hard for me to keep up with critiquing and writing. During the week critiquing had taken the place of my family responsibilities like putting the kids to bed. When I gave up writing, I had to give up critiquing as well and that freed me up to be with family.

I also realized that not having critique partners for these many months has really helped my writing. Many of my numerous, well meaning partners often edited my voice out and in my own desperation to learn, and be published, I listened to everyone’s advice, changing everything they suggested until I didn’t recognize my own writing. I’m happy to say I’m finding my voice again, and I like the way I sound.

Not writing has given me a peace about publication. My anxiety to publish is gone. No more worries about everything being perfect. I now have a peace about God’s timing in my writing career, and I look forward to the times I get to write, instead of obsessing over having to write all the time! The true test of this came when a writing friend of mine recently received a contract. I waited for the green-eyed monster to rear its ugly head, but it didn’t. I was genuinely happy!

Even though I gave up writing, I’ve probably written just as many words as I did while working on my WIPs. Not writing opened the door for a new obsession. Blogging. After many months of pounding the keys and posting, trying to keep up with the Jones’ of bloggville, I’ve gotten back to the heart of blogging. Writer…Interrupted was started out of my own need to connect with other writing moms who don’t have the time to write. It has grown into something bigger than myself. It’s exciting to see where God will take all this, and to know I am not equipped to do it on my own.

Not writing has made me a better mom and homeschooler. I no longer look at my kids as interruptions to my writing life, but blessings that should be enjoyed to the fullest, now! I used to push my children away when I wrote, annoyed that they interrupted me. Now I push the key board away (after I’ve finished a thought, of course) and invite my four-year-old up on my lap to watch me type.

So I guess giving up writing helped me become a better writer, mother, and follower of Christ. I still have my challenges, and always will, but whether or not I ever get published, one thing I do know is that writing is something I will always do. Yet, if it ever becomes an obsession again, I know what I’ll have to do!

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Christy Barrit is a speaker and freelance writer. The author of many books and articles, she is also worship leader at her chruch. Christy lives in Virginia with her husband and son. Welcome Christy!

Tell us a little about your family and your call to write.
I’ve been married to my wonderful husband for six years. This past June, our first baby was born—Eli Samuel. He’s been a real blessing, and by far my best “creation” yet. I started writing seriously about the time my husband and I got married. Though I love writing books, I realized that I also needed some stability in my income, so I began freelancing for various publications. Today, I have over 300 articles published, four books already out and two books slated for future publication.

I really enjoyed your recent release, Hazardous Duty. Tell us about it and the next books in the series.
Hazardous Duty a cozy chick-lit about a crime scene cleaner who likes to stick her nose into police business. The heroine, Gabby St. Claire, is sassy and determined. She wants to be a forensic pathologist, but was sidelined by family issues while in college. That’s what led her to crime scene cleaning. She finds a clue that the police missed while cleaning a senatorial candidate’s house after his wife has died. It then becomes a race to find the bad guy before the bad guy silences her forever. She has the help of two handsome men along the way.
The second book, The Grim Sweeper, continues following Gabby St. Claire’s journey. This time she’s taken on a mold remediation job since crime has been slow in the city. While under a house, she finds Elvis—dead. The rest of the story goes from there.

I just loved the first book and can’t wait until the second!

How did you get your first “writing break?”
After college I worked at a Christian publishing house. This has really helped me in my freelancing career. After I left the company, I continued to write for them, mostly doing interviews with Christian music artists. An editor at the publishing house wanted to do a book project centering on Christian music. Several people recommended me for the project. He sent me a book proposal (a dream come true!) and I accepted. That was my first big book contract.

What do you write and why this genre?
I love writing chick-lit mystery/suspense. I love to style of chick-lit—the confessional, first-person tone. I really feel like I found my voice when I started writing in first-person. But I also love mystery and suspense. So I combined the two genres. I like to call it “genre fusion.”

What do you hope to accomplish through your novels?
I always feel a little shallow when I say this, but really I want to entertain my readers. That’s why I read—I want to be sucked into another world, into another person’s life. So, first and foremost, I want to tell a good story. I hope that readers might take away a thing or two from the book besides being entertained, of course. But that’s my primary goal.

Life with a new baby has to be hectic. How has your writing life changed since you became a mom?
Wow, has it ever changed! Someone asked me what my schedule is like now and I told them it was something like this: settle to the computer, pull up my document, glance at my son, think about how cute he is, tickle his feet until he giggles, turn back to the computer, write one sentence, hear my son cooing, turn back to him, think about how cute he is, decide to take a picture, take the picture, remind myself that I have deadlines to meet, etc., etc. LOL! Not the most effective method for writing.

Are you finding it harder to manage your time with a baby who doesn’t understand the meaning of deadlines?
Very much so. At first, I tried to write during the day when Eli was with me. That was okay for awhile when he was only a few months old. But not anymore. Now, I try to work when he takes naps (which is rarely), when his dad is home, early in the morning, or whenever my mom watches him! Thankfully, my mom lives close by and she’s offered to watch him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. That’s when I get the bulk of my writing done.How do you handle interruptions in your writing life?
I try to handle them with grace. I also try to be wise when scheduling my time. When my mother is watching Eli, I block off time for my novel writing. This means that I don’t answer the phone, I don’t check email, and I don’t think about anything else except my book. I’ve found that good communication with my family saves me a lot of frustration.

How do you get back into the flow of writing after you’ve been interrupted?
I need concentration to write. I can’t write in five-minute spurts. I’ve tried and been miserable. So I just try to find time when I know I won’t be interrupted—or that I’m the least likely to be interrupted. Sometimes I grab my laptop and drive to a local park. I sit in my car and write. I actually get quite a bit done on those days.

How do you position yourself to HEAR God’s voice when all the noises of life are swirling around you?
By having alone time. I go crazy without it, so I have to fit it in somehow. Sometimes, I have to wake up early to get it. Sometimes, I have to let my husband have an evening alone with Eli. My quiet time isn’t just selfish—it allows me to clear my head, to focus my priorities, and to chat with God. When my life gets too busy and hectic, everything goes downhill. I owe it to myself—and to God—to carve out quiet time.If you ever feel your priorities slipping, what do you do to get back on track?
I step back. Like I was talking about in the previous question, I need my quiet time. I think when I’m really in tune with God, my heart will tell me if my priorities are out of order. I don’t have peace if my priorities are messed up. If I’m in tune with the spirit’s leading in my life, then I can refocus and get back on track more easily. I get in tune with God through prayer, reading the Bible, worship, and being with believers who inspire me to grow closer to God.

Has there ever been a time God told you to set aside your writing to focus on other areas of your life? If so, how did you handle that?
Not yet. I used to be a workaholic—and I still struggle with that tendency. Until Eli was born, I was the worship leader at my church. After Eli was born I really felt like God telling me to let go of that ministry. And he raised someone else up to fill the position. I’m at total peace about it, though I do miss doing it. I realize that I can’t do everything and do it well.

I know Eli is going to grow up so fast. I don’t want to miss a moment of his life. If I have a writing agenda during my time with Eli, then I usually end up just being miserable. When Eli is playing by himself, I try to work on the house, on things that don’t require my concentration. I’m just going to take that step by step as he gets older. I definitely haven’t figured out balance yet, especially since Eli is changing all the time and my schedule right along with him.Hey—maybe you could offer me some advice! J

Did you ever feel like you’ve “missed” God in regards to writing, that maybe you should be doing something else?
I’d have to say that writing is one of the few things that I feel pretty confident about. I struggle with insecurity in many areas. But six years ago, I really felt that God put it on my heart to write. I felt his calling in a way I’d never felt before. Of course there were times when I felt like giving up on writing because publication wasn’t coming quickly and I questioned my abilities. But regardless of that, I’ve persisted, really feeling like this is where I should be.

What advice would you give to writing moms?
I was really nervous before Eli was born that I wouldn’t be able to be a “good” mom and be a writer at the same time. A lot of women at my church don’t work (nor would they dream about working), they homeschool, they cook for their husbands every night, and their houses always seem to sparkle. They’re happy little homemakers! I thought I’d be a bad mom if I wasn’t like them, if I held on to my own non-family related ambitions.A godly friend of mine sat me down and told me that it doesn’t have to be either/or. Just because I wanted to work, that didn’t mean I’d be a bad mom. I could be a great mom and follow God’s calling in my life to be a writer. Her words gave me tremendous peace. Now I realize that God has made us each individuals and we need to listen to his voice and his plan for our lives—not his plan for other people’s lives. Comparison will just make us miserable. Is there anything else you’d like to share?
Sometimes I think that as mothers, we need to give each other a break, and realize that God has a plan for each of our lives. Mothers are the worst at judging other moms! Have you noticed that? I’m learning not to care, but it’s hard.

I went to a writers conference three months after my son was born. When people found out that I’d left my baby at home, some were horrified—and they let me know about it. But I knew my baby was being taken care of. I wouldn’t have left him otherwise. That didn’t change the fact that I felt totally judged. I’ve heard countless other stories similar to this.Sometimes, other people’s opinions about our lives can be a hindrance to hearing God’s voice. Trust in God’s calling for your life. Listen to other people’s advice, but let God be your ultimate authority. God will speak to your heart if your life gets off balance. And remember that God has great plans for your life—whether that’s being a mom, being a writer or both.Thanks so much for the interview, Gina! It gave me a chance to do some soul-searching before answering. God bless you, your family and your writing!Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and wisdom with me. May God bless you as you write, raise your baby and pursue His calling in your life.

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Portriat of Faith

“I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, and every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight; “and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together.”²”

For the full tribute to Martin Luther King, Jr go here.

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Dangerous-And Worth the Risk
Week Six Part One

The suddenly there dawns upon us the vast, entire endowment of God’s free love and forgiveness…It is this which bowls us over…frees us…transforms us.

Paul Tournier

Saved by Grace.

Christians throw that phrase around to express their faith, but do they really know what Grace is? I’ve come to a deeper appreciation and revelation about God’s Grace. It’s so amazing, even my six-year-old is still too young to understand it’s power and meaning.

I’ve come to understand through my own Christian walk the difference between Grace and Mercy in these simple terms:

Grace is getting some reward I don’t deserve. Mercy is being forgiven or pardoned from a wrong I did and a punishment I deserve.

The most remarkable thing about the God I serve is that He offers these to us generously, every day. Other religions of the world can’t boast this about their gods. They promote religions where man gets exactly what he deserves or that he’ll have to pay, or make atonement for their sins in another life or another time. They also promote works, and striving to gain the approval of their God and to enter into their idea of heaven everlasting life.I’m so glad I’m not a slave to their religions, but found the power of Grace through the gift God gave the world in his Son Jesus Christ.

Dwight Edwards uses the example of the story of the Prodigal Son to illustrate God’s grace and mercy. When I had read the story in the past, my focus was always on the two sons, the wayward one and the one who stayed by the father’s side. But let’s take a look at the father.

Edwards pointed out that most of us think of prodigal as meaning wayward. I have to confess that’s what I thought. But prodigal means “excessive or overflowing” as in the word prodigy, a person who is overflowing or gifted with exceptional abilities. In light of this revelation, let’s look at the story a new. The story about the Prodigal Father. You may want to take a moment to read the story for yourself found in Luke 15.

Grace is the theme of the Prodigal Son, and it’s demonstrated in the father’s response to his son. In the story we read that “while the son was still a great way off, his father saw him.” This can imply that though the son had done a terrible thing by taking his inheritance and running away, the father was still looking for him. Amidst his daily chores, the father was watching the road, hoping to see his son.

And when the father finally saw his son returning home, instead of saying “I told you so” or “I knew you’d be back”, he had “compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him.” Edwards points out that in that culture, an older man running toward someone was considered undignified and wouldn’t normally happen. Now consider how this culture felt about pigs. They were unclean, defiled animals and his son smelled like a pig, covered in sweat and grime as he traveled in the hot son down dusty roads.

Now imagine the scene again. An old man running toward this filthy, defiled broken vessel of a man. How great the father’s joy had to be to do this in front of all his servants and family. What a prodigal love the father had for his son!

Then the father restored his son to his rightful position as a son. What better picture of Grace is that? Being accepted back in the family though he didn’t deserve it. Do you think the son was surprised? Of course, the best he had expected was to be a servant in his father’s house. And the Grace didn’t end there. “Bring out the best robe…a ring…sandals…kill the fatted calf…” The older brother sat by and witnessed his father’s grace and didn’t get it. That’s because “Grace is unimaginable in generosity. It gives beyond all reasonable expectation.”

It’s the same with God and us. He sees our sin, our waywardness, and yet waits, scanning the horizon for us to return, never giving up hope that we will someday be reconciled with Him.

Edwards says “God’s Grace is the most unreasonable thing in the world. It’s also the most powerful. Nothing is more effective for transforming lives, risky though it is.”

I have to agree as I marvel at God’s prodigal love for me.

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1. Don’t believe you’ll exercise and drop the weight when your six weeks recovery time is up. You’ll be too exhausted to get up off the couch and your crying baby will want to be held all the time. Though if you put on a infant carrier, he makes a great weight for squats!

2. Infants don’t know the difference between 1 am and 1 pm and just when you think you’re about to lose your mind, they’ll start sleeping through the night!

3. No matter how many times you discipline (spank) your two year old, he’ll keep getting out of his bed at nap time and when his nap time is over, YOU’LL NEED A NAP! Connection BEFORE correction!

4. An 18-month-old won’t remember the expensive Disneyland Trip when he grows up, no matter how many life-size characters you meet, but the photos you take will make him think he remembers and will be priceless!!!

5. What’s a cute habit at two (like “shaking your booty”) isn’t necessarily cute to your child’s teacher at preschool!

6. When you’re eight months pregnant, television and the computer are great babysitters, and won’t turn your kids into vegetables even if they watch and play for three hours while you take a nap. And yes, two and a half year olds know how to change computer CDs.

7.Lock up all your toddler’s crayons and markers. It’s okay to stifle their creativity, especially if it’ll save you hours of work and hundreds of dollars.

8. It’s okay to let your child crawl in bed with you in the middle of the night, even if there’s no thunderstorm.

9. Start that scrapbook NOW!!!! When the kids muliply and photos pile up, and you decide to scrapbook you WILL totally have forgetten which kid is which.

10. Never leave home without a change of clothes for your kids, antibacterial soap and a walmart sack!

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As I mentioned before, I spent the weekend locked away in a hotel suite equipped with a living area, kitchen and huge table where I set up my computer. I worked from Friday evening to Saturday night, when I reached my goal of 10,000 and a finished novella. Each night I had gotten to bed after 2am, so I decided to sleep in on Sunday morning.

I went back and forth about missing my church’s new series on Jesus, but figured I could catch it on the web. When I woke up Sunday morning, I flipped though the channels, stopping on a choir singing. Not my typical church service. I like my music more contemporary, but thought I’d give it a try. Then a suited man stepped to the podium. Again, not my tpical service. My pastor is usually dressed casual and in the summer often wears sandals.

Still I watched and listened to the man’s words, and not his presentation. And I’m so glad I didn’t switch channels.

Adrian Rogers of Bellvue Baptist Church in Memphis, Tennessee and Love Worth Finding Ministries started off By saying, “I’m going to give you a formula for how to arrive at your destination without a map. ”

The first thing I thought was Oh, great another seven steps on how to succeed in this Christian walk or three easy steps to heaven. I didn’t want to hear another formula on how to be a good Christian. Nothing I’ve heard in seven easy steps ever worked. At my old church I can’t tell you how many times I went down to the altar, crying my heart out, hoping for God to zap me, only to realize I hadn’t changed by the next week.

But I kept listening and was glued to the television for the next 30 minutes. Rogers didn’t offer seven steps to get to where we want to go this new year, he offered one in three parts using the scripture found in Joshua 3:1-6

Early in the morning Joshua and all the Israelites set out from Shittim and went to the Jordan, where they camped before crossing over. 2 After three days the officers went throughout the camp, 3 giving orders to the people: “When you see the ark of the covenant of the Lord your God, and the priests, who are Levites, carrying it, you are to move out from your positions and follow it. 4 Then you will know which way to go, since you have never been this way before. But keep a distance of about a thousand yards between you and the ark; do not go near it.” 5 Joshua told the people, “Consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the Lord will do amazing things among you.” 6 Joshua said to the priests, “Take up the ark of the covenant and pass on ahead of the people.” So they took it up and went ahead of them.

Then the preacher said, “The important thing is not to know what the future holds, but to keep your eyes on Jesus.” And I was hooked.

Let Jesus Guide you with His Presence

You don’t have to know when, you just have to move when the arc move. Are you waitng on things to happen in your life? Well, get your eyes off “things” and onto Jesus.

Timing is more important to God than time.

When Moses killed an Egyptian, he was taking it upon himself to stop the injustice instead of the Israelites instead of waiting on God.

When Abraham took Hagar as his wife and had Isaac, he was trying make God’s promise happen on his time.

And look what a mess these two men of faith made when they got their eyes off of God.

Jesus was never in a hurry and was never late. Even when his mother wanted to push him into the ministry, he was patient and replied,“My hour has not yet come.”

You don’t have to know where you’re going

God knows you haven’t passed this way before. He knows you’re worried and afraid, and he wants to take that fear from you . Give it to him. Give up control of having to know everything. I know for me, if God had shown me just where I was going, to get to this point in my life I might not have followed. Just keep your eyes on Jesus, and you won’t get lost on the way to your destination.

You don’t have to know why

I don’t know about you, but I often wonder why God works the way he does. But I’ve learned it’s useless to wonder why because God’s ways are not our own. We cannot possible understand the workings of the Lord, so why try? God tells us, we don’t have to know where we are going. “Tomorrow the Lord will do wonders among you.”

Keep your eyes on Jesus and you will know when to go.

Keep your eyes on Jesus and you’ll never get lost.

Keep your eyes on Jesus and you won’t have to worry or ask why!

Are your eyes on Jesus?

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While doing a Bible study on the Helmet of Salvation this morning, I said something that got a reaction out of my 6 year old that surprised me.

I said, “When I became a Christian at 15…”

Timmy, “What? You’re a Christian?”

My mouth gaps open in unbelief. “You mean you don’t think I’m a Christian?”

Timmy: “No.”

Trying not to sound too offended and shocked. “Why do you say that?”

Here’s where my ultra sensitive child starts to lose it. He hangs his head, hides his eyes and avoids my question. I push a little and he says, “Christians are nice and good and don’t yell.” At least that’s what I thought he said. I was still getting over my surprise and probably did a little reading between the lines.

Something else happened that sent him into a mini fit, throwing a pencil at me. (I think when he gets embarrassed or thinks someone is upset with him, his anger takes over. But he’s learning to take a time out on his own and then is back to normal.)

I got him to calm down a minute, but he wouldn’t look at me. I tried to dig deeper, and I learned he didn’t think he was a Christian and didn’t know if he would go to Heaven or Hell. Apparently he has this “works” mentality of Salvation. He thinks if he’s good then he’ll go to Heaven. I explained to him all about God’s Grace, and if you’ve given your life to Jesus, and He is in your heart, then you’re a Christian and going to Heaven.

Then came the million dollar question, I’m sure the theologians are still debating.

“If a Christian kills everybody, is he still going to heaven?”

My honest thought was I don’t know. But my response, “If he kills everyone than he’s not a Christian.”

So what would you have answered?

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Susan May Warren is the award-winning author of seventeen novels and novellas with Tyndale, Steeple Hill and Barbour Publishing. Her first book, Happily Ever After won the American Fiction Christian Writers Book of the Year in 2003, and was a 2003 Christy Award finalist. In Sheep’s Clothing, a thriller set in Russia , was a 2006 Christy Award finalist and won the 2006 Inspirational Reader’s Choice award. A former missionary to Russia , Susan May Warren now writes Suspense/Romance and Chick Lit full time from her home in northern Minnesota.

Reclaiming Nick
Back Cover Copy

Nick Noble hadn’t planned on being the prodigal son.

But when his father dies and leaves half of Silver Buckle—the Noble family ranch—to Nick’s former best friend, he must return home to face those he left behind. And to make sure that the Silver Buckle stays in the Noble family.

Award-winning journalist Piper Sullivan believes Nick framed her brother for murder, and she’s determined to find justice. But following Nick to the Silver Buckle and posing as a ranch cook proves more challenging than she first anticipated. So does resisting his charming smile.

As Nick seeks to overturn his father’s will—and Piper digs for answers—family secrets surface that send Nick’s life into a tailspin. But there’s someone who wants to see the Silver Buckle leave Noble hands, and he’s willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen, even if it means taking a life.

Review

I guess I should start off by saying I’m not a very good reviewer and don’t really read romance, or cowboy novels for that matter, but stay with me because Reclaiming Nick definitely kept my interest until the end. Susan’s modern tale of the Prodigal son took me back to cowboy country, and I didn’t mind a bit. Nick is every cowboy lovers dream, though he carries guilt from his jaded past. The characters were engaging and the plot moved along at a good pace. I thoroughly enjoyed the subplot, I think even more than the main plot (translation: too much romance for this suspense lover).

The icing on the cake of this sweet tale of mistakes, regret, forgiveness and love hit the spot, was the message that God offers love and forgiveness to all people.

So bottom line, if you love cowboys and romance, go out and grab yourself a copy of Reclaiming Nick! And even if you’re not a cowboy lover, after Reclaiming Nick, you just might become one!

Interview with Susan

Tell me a little about your family and what a typical day at the Warren house looks like.

Typical day! These days, the only thing typical is that I’ll open the fridge about 6:00 pm every night and say, Hmm, food…wonder what I should serve for supper.*grin* But, if I were put it all together and shake it all about, the “average” would look something like:Get up at 6am, have my QT while I intermittently harass my daughter to get out of bed and into the shower. She’s out the door with my husband by 7:30, and then I throw in some laundry and hop on the treadmill, reading a good book while I walk 1-3 miles depending on how much I have to get done. (Or how good the book is.) Then I wake my boys (ages 10-12-15) and roust them out of bed while I hit the showers. We spend the rest of the morning working on home-school assignments (in-between me doing email and other writing-biz stuff). Then, after a lunch break where I either answer more email or maybe watch a TiVoed episode of Prison Break/Gilmore Girls/NCIS/Men in Trees, or Heroes, I go up to my room, hang a sign on the door that says, “Cry me a River,” which translates to “You’d better be bleeding from the ears or have a really technical math problem before you THINK of knocking on this door.” And then I write like crazy, or sometimes just WISH I were writing like crazy and not surfing the net reading my friends’ blogs. But no one knows, because, well, the door is CLOSED. I do try to write 3000-5000 words a day. I take a break around 4pm to greet my daughter, and hear the latest Jr. High gossip, and check in on the home-schoolers, maybe do some threatening of missed Play Station games if they don’t knuckle down to work, and then retreat to the office for more writing/procrastination. Which brings us to the moment, when my husband is puling into the driveway and I’m looking at the fridge wishing I had a cook. The rest of the evening is spent with the fam…

Every time I turn around, it seems like you have another novel coming out. How do you balance your writing career with the responsibilities of everyday responsibilities of raising children and caring for a home?

Balance? Oh, you said the B-word! I once lamented that I go in cycles – sometimes my house is immaculate, but I haven’t written a word in weeks. Then I’m a writing maniac but no one has any clean clothes. My girlfriend, who also happens to be a life-coach said balance isn’t when everything is perfect all the time – balance is an average, say a month, where if you put it all together, you managed to accomplish it all, just not all in one day. I really liked that definition. Mostly, I prioritize my family and my time with the Lord, and if the house gets cleaned, if I have balanced meals, if we have clean clothes and if I get my allotted writing done, well then life is very good. I do have to interject that 1. I ask for help from the kids. 2. On my gravestone, I am okay if it never reads, “And she had a really clean house.” (Although I have to say, my house is pretty clean…*g*)

Do you ever feel your priorities slipping and if so what do you do to get back on track?

Sometimes, if I am up against a deadline, and I’m spending a lot of time writing and haven’t seen another living soul for a few days, well, I might feel as if my mothering priorities have slipped. But even if I am swamped with work, I make sure I take time out to tuck the kids in bed. If they don’t have a story read, they’ll live through the night, but they have to have those few minutes with me. Or rather, it’s me who needs those few minutes with them. And, if I am going through a couple weeks when writing takes a higher priority, I talk to them about it before hand, and I find they are surprisingly supportive. If I involve them in my dreams, I believe they will involve me in theirs. I also brainstorm with my kids, and ask them to go on “brain-cleansing” walks with me, and talk out plots with them. They are involved in my stories and as excited as I am, and very proud of their mom when I have a new book come out. And I in turn tell them how proud I am of them, for being such great kids as to give me the time and support to write.

At one point you were a missionary in Russia, writing as well as homeschooling. When did you find time to write and did you ever feel like you’re neglecting your children when you did write?

Here’s the thing about home-schooling – when you are with your kids for six, seven hours a day, they WANT you to go to your room and leave them alone! By 3pm my kids were all but pushing me into my room with promises of heavenly behavior, housecleaning and cooking. At that time, when they were little, I had an absolute OPEN DOOR policy, where they could come in anytime, for any reason. (And I wrote more than one book with a child on my lap!) But I did ask them to respect my time, and if they could solve the problem themselves, I asked them to do it. I think it taught them not only responsibility, but an understanding that Mommy was a person with dreams, too. Also, I made them a part of the celebration process. When I finished a chapter, we all got ice-cream. When I finished a book, we went out for dinner. They practically begged me to write! *g* The one year that they were all in public school, I only wrote when they were gone. Now, I have to say that although I started writing when my youngest was two, I didn’t commit any significant time to writing until he was about five or six. One of my tricks was to let him watch a movie (or a learning-channel show) while I sat in the room with my laptop and earphones on. I was there for him to see when he needed me, and yet able to focus on my work. I think the essential component here is, my children always knew that they were numero uno in my life, even if I wasn’t spending every moment with them.

Has there ever been a time God told you to set aside your writing to focus on other areas of your life? If so, how did you handle that?

God has asked me to wait upon Him for writing projects, or asked me to use my writing time for other purposes than writing books, but so far, He hasn’t asked me to stop writing novels. I don’t know that God would ever ask me to stop writing in general – perhaps He’d ask me to stop writing for publication during a time — but writing is part of my devotional life, so even if it is just God and I, on a desert island, there I am, writing in the sand. Like a singer must sing. But as for novels, my entire purpose for writing is to glorify God in the process, and in the end product. If I am not doing that, then I shouldn’t be writing, and if God asked me to stop writing for publication, I would have to look at why He might be doing that. And, yes, I would be obedient.

Has the time you were able to commit to writing for publication been different in various seasons of my life?

Yes. When my children were very small, I only wrote on Saturdays, when they were spending time with Daddy. I have been blessed with a very supportive spouse, and there was never any conflict with him feeling neglected, so I very much felt God’s blessing on my writing time. Also, during the season where I only had Saturday, and then later 1-3 hours a day, I prayed that God would redeem my writing time, and make it productive. He really answered my prayers and I was able to crank out books surprisingly fast. I think, as a writing mom, that’s the best way to keep it all in focus – prioritizing the kids, and trusting God to give you the words to write for Him. I always try and remember that God has my writing journey planned out – one that is tailored to my personality and dreams and designed to speak softly to me just how much He loves me.

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