Tell us a little about your family and your call to write.
I am the husband of one beautiful wife, father of four awesome kids, and the so-called master of one very dumb dog. My calling to write is hard to pinpoint. Ever since I can remember, I’ve been prone to get lost in music and in my peculiar imaginings. So I think rather than a specific calling to write, I’ve been harboring some sort of artistic discontent, a sort of infernal itch to communicate through creation, since I was a little kid. I’ve tried many things to scratch it, from playing in rock bands to making people laugh to eventually scribbling down stories.
How did you get your first “writing break?”
Wow, I really feel like the whole journey has been one long series of breaks. Even the setbacks (with the obvious benefit of hindsight) were more like steppingstones. I’m sitting here wracking my brain for a single instance, but the thing I keep coming back to is the idea of ‘emotional’ breaks, the internal stuff.
The outside stuff—getting an agent or a contract or even a great compliment—are wonderful milestones. I really do cherish those things. But I think our biggest breaks happen when we’re in the writing zone, some small insight that comes billowing out of the steam generated by all that furious typing, when we write something that we know is either true or beautiful, something we didn’t know we knew until we typed it. Those are always precious gifts to the writer and need to be treated as such.
What do you write and why this genre?
My answer is confusing, but honest. I don’t know what genre I write (and I’m not entirely sure anyone else does either). And please don’t hear me saying that’s necessarily a good thing either.
I think (for me, anyway) the ‘why’ part informs the ‘what’ part, instead of the other way around. I want to write stories about characters I love. So I really don’t think about genres at all when I’m doing the work, not even a little bit. What I focus on is trying to stay as true as I can to the characters and their stories, then figure out what to call it later.
I guess in some ways it’s like raising kids. We want them to be healthy and happy and to pursue God’s best. But if we’re honest, we don’t know exactly what that’s going to ultimately look like. Because every kid is different and God calls them all to different things. And in the case of my daughter, she won’t even keep the last name I gave her forever.
(And yeah, I think I not only over-spiritualized what should have been a simple answer, but I also pandered to the theme of the website by working child-rearing into an answer about writing! Sorry?)
Do you have any recent contracts and up coming releases?
I do indeed…my first novel, My Name Is Russell Fink (Zondervan) releases Feb. 15 or thereabout. My second novel, Return Policy (Zondervan again) is supposed to release later this year. After that, who knows? But if everyone reading this interview will simply buy one copy of my book for every single person in their church, then I’ll have more contracts and book releases in the future!
What do you hope to accomplish through your novels?
Wow, that’s a really tough question. And my honest answer lands somewhere between “I don’t know” and “a whole lot of things at once.” I guess my hope is that my writing will resonate with readers in at least two ways: 1) that the reader will get at least a little of what they came looking for (story, humor, pathos, an escape, truth, beauty, tears, romance, an escape, etc.), and 2) maybe a little something they weren’t expecting too.
I think the story Nathan told David is a good example. The story ‘worked’ on a surface level. David got it, was moved by it. But then there was a little more to the story than he first thought. I like that.
And now for the tough questions…
Wait, they get harder? I’ve already bled once and cried twice. What are you trying to do to me here?
LOL! Sorry, pal. It’s the price you pay for being published and interviewed here!
How do you balance being a dad, husband, writer, and working?
It’s all about priorities and time management. Which is hilarious, because I’m terrible at both!
God has to come first, then my family, then my obligations to friends and my day job. After all that comes the writing. Ideally, there will be natural synergies among those things. For example, I want my kids to really know me (and vice versa). And I think we can all agree that life is (or should be!) messy. So when you mix all that up, I hope my children will watch and learn by observing Daddy’s juggling act—the successes AND the failures. As much as possible I try to make this a team effort with my family. (My kids talk about my characters like they’re real people.) I’m sure I mess it up a lot. Thankfully, there’s enough grace and humor to grease all the moving parts and keep things moving forward.
When do you find the time to write, and do you ever feel like you’re neglecting your family when you write?
My writing schedule is a bit flakey…and a tremendous tribute to my wife and kids. When I get home from work, it’s dinner and family time. The best days are when I’m totally present and involved during this time. Once the bedtime rituals are complete (pj’s, brushing teeth, reading, praying), I lay down with my kids and take a thirty-minute nap. After that, it’s mommy and daddy time, which invariably involves hot tea and bill-paying. I usually start writing just before 10pm and go as long as I’m able.
How important is a support family to your writing career?
I’m not sure they have a word strong enough for that. Vital?
The day my family starts to suffer as a direct result of my writing will be the day I retire from writing.
How do you handle interruptions in your writing life?
I’m fortunate that I don’t have to deal with a ton of interruptions (unless drowsiness counts!). Most of the time I’m the only one awake. But they do happen and the only thing I know to do is to just try and have a sense of humor about it. Oh, and leave pens and scraps of paper strewn all over the place so I can write down those shifty thoughts before they get away from me.
How do you get back into the flow of writing after you’ve been interrupted?
Again, I’m fortunate in this regard. But I think it’s the same with all interruptions, big or small. You just have to roll your sleeves up and get back into the story. I’ve found that the best solution for most any writing problem is more writing.
How do you position yourself to HEAR God’s voice when all the noises of life are swirling around you?
I’m sure I need to do a better, or at least more consistent, job with this. But when things are going well, it just seems like the antennae is poking up just above all that swirling chaos we call life. So although I may not ‘be still,’ hopefully I’ll still ‘know that He is God’ even amid turmoil.
If you do feel your priorities slipping, what do you do to get back on track?
Hah, I really had to think about this one. But it’s funny, the answer is painfully simple. I don’t have time to do anything but the priorities. And since I love my life, and thus, my whole list of priorities, I’m always doing them.
Has there ever been a time God told you to set aside your writing to focus on other areas of your life? If so, how did you handle that?
Not entirely. But yeah, there have been lots of times where I’ve had to forego writing to deal with something more important and/or urgent. But going back to your question about priorities, these are easy decisions to make. My deadline for book 2 required some major rearranging and sacrifice from my whole family. But I would have easily missed my deadline if it meant doing damage to the ones I love most. The reality was that we sort of made it a team effort. I really believe my kids can see the value of hard work and pulling together and sacrificing a little for the greater good. And it’s funny, when time is shorter for whatever reason, we tend to relish the time we do have together even more.
Did you ever feel like you’ve “missed” God in regards to writing, that maybe you should be doing something else?
No, and it’s funny…if anything, I sometimes wonder if I “missed” the calling to write. It’s easy to look back on what might have been obvious signals to take up writing. But I liked music and sports and girls and more music and napping way more. For instance I once had a college professor who was always after me to pursue writing. He even asked my permission to send one of my assignments to some journal somewhere. And it was accepted and published! But frankly, I didn’t care. I never saw it and I have no clue what the publication was called. So feel free to either roll your eyes or call me a moron…or both?
What advice would you give to writing dads who are have their hearts set on publication?
Actually…I would suggest a slight tweak in that heart setting. I’m about to be published and it’s a huge honor. It’s humbling and scary and wonderful and all those things that I probably thought it would be. But…getting published wasn’t really ‘the point’ when I started all this writing. So it would be a little disingenuous of me now to make out like it was. And as cool as a publishing deal is, it’s still not the point. In fact, it could easily distort the point if I’m not careful. I always had my heart set on writing well. Getting published is a fine goal, but it should never define who we are as writers. There are a lot of great things about being published. But it has its downsides too.
I have this friend who can write circles around me. Her name is Jeanne Damoff and I don’t know if she’ll ever get a publishing deal or not. I’m not even sure where that ranks on her list of things to do. But I don’t think of Jeanne as ‘not published yet’ or even ‘one who deserves to be published’. I think of her as someone who adores stringing words together. I think of her as a great and good steward of the gifts God gave her—wisdom, insight, pathos, and a killer sense of humor. Her talent is utterly enviable and I have no doubt that her words will inspire and engage and amuse lots and lots of people, whether she gets the nod from a big publishing house or not. Part of me wishes that for her. But then I remember that that’s between her and God. The thing is, I don’t need a publishing house’s stamp of approval to confirm what I already know, that Jeanne is a great writer.
And for the record, I do realize that Jeanne is a mom, not a dad.
Anyway, I wasn’t meaning to parse the question or diminish the goal of publication. But this is such a fickle and subjective business. And I just hate it when I see a writer lose his or her joy. If God calls one to write…and he or she loves the writing…then whatever happens as a result will be pleasing to God. And that’s a pretty darn good goal in and of itself.
I’m beginning to see the truth in your words in my own writing journey. I’ve always known I was a writer, then the publishing bug hit and is slowing wearing off, which is a good thing. It’s allowed me to slow my pace and enjoy life and family instead of striving endlessly for that elusive book contract!
Is there anything else you’d like to share?
Nope, I’m sure I’ve said too much already. Okay, yeah, there is at least one more thing…Thank you!
Thanks for having me here. And thank you for your constant striving to remind us to be good parents first. That’s a good, good thing.
Thank you! Through your interview you’ve reminded ME to be a good mom first! Even though you’ve shared from the perspective of a dad!
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