Breaking Up Ain’t Hard to Do
Okay, why is it that I’m not at all shocked any more when I hear of yet another well respected Godly couple calling it quits or separating?
Last time it was good friends of ours. The husband left his wife and two kids without any warning. He just didn’t want to be married any more. My husband tried repeatedly to be a friend to him, but there was always an excuse why he couldn’t get together for lunch.
Now it’s a homeschool mom of three girls, raised in a Godly family and married to her college sweetheart who’s left her family. I’m surprised, but not shocked and that’s frightening.
It tells me that more and more people I know and respect are splitting up. Couples who I thought had a better/stronger marriage relationship than me and my hubby are now calling it quits. It’s crazy! By all appearances I probably should have been divorced, oh fifteen years ago, but we made a commitment to each other and no matter how tough it gets, we’re willing to work through it. Yes, mostly for the children’s sake, but also because I believe that our union was orchestrated by God, though at times it’s hard to understand what in the world God was thinking when he put us together. 🙂 But that’s another story for another day!
Still, I know that we’re together because we really need each other. Yes, I’m pretty stubborn about a lot of things and my baggage usually gets in the way of learning my lessons, but I’m not quitting. No matter how long it takes me to graduate.
I’m a product of divorce and never want my children to experience that. Even though ours is a dysfunctional family of sorts, we’re still a committed family. That’s why I can’t understand what pushes these people to the edge. Why they leave their children and families?
Well, maybe I can understand. I’ve felt hopelessness and despair, but instead of withdrawing or running to someone else for comfort, I cried out to God. Instead of focusing on myself and the moment, I’ve tried to grasp the big picture and how my actions would affect the whole family.
Maybe it’s not for me to understand. I probably never will. But one thing I can do is pray. Will you pray also for these marriages and for the ones that are on the brink of destruction?
