Universal and Tough Love
One of our sons is incredibly mean and horrible to the other. We’ve tried everything, but this son picks at and says awful things to the other one. His attitude and hatred in his heart at times is wrenching to me and those who here this verbal abuse.
We’ve tried it all. No Ps2, no friends, etc. Sometimes it works…for a while, then he goes back. The root of the problem is selfishness and we’ve even had him memorize scripture. It’s encouraging when I see his heart soften, but it can harden up so quickly.
Well, we’ve committed to getting tougher with him. In fact, while on line at Universal for the Pteradon Flyer ride ( a 60 minute wait) his attitude became unbearable. After several warnings and nearing the end of the line (which was more like a 30 minute wait) I said he was NOT going on the ride. At first he was shocked and I looked to my husband for support. I felt myself waver, but my husband agreed! My son flared his nostril and gave the evil eye to me and his brother, but we all boarded the ride without him.
His attitude seemed to settle down for a while, but days later he’s back to picking at people (not just his brother, but sister also.) It’s so difficult to know what to do. Most of it is selfishness and it’s NOT just the age. He’s been like this for a looong time. If anyone has any suggestions I’m open to it. Something really needs to happen in his heart (and I’ve seen it soften so I know it’s not hopeless,) but I’m at a loss what to do!
